With Zendaya’s film Challengers stirring up intrigue around the “tennis à trois” lifestyle, everyone’s asking: How do I make this happen?
1. Start With a One-on-One First
Ready to spice things up with a third? Before diving in, have a candid, no-holds-barred talk with your partner. Threesomes can bring thrill, but they can also stir up jealousy and unspoken insecurities. Get any concerns out on the table to make sure you’re both truly comfortable with the idea.
If your partner seems hesitant, don’t push. Pressuring someone to cross their boundaries can backfire, leaving your relationship with cracks that even the wildest night can’t fix. But if you’re both all-in, start imagining what this will look like.
2. Set Clear Boundaries
Before inviting a third, establish firm boundaries with your partner. As Lehmiller says, discuss what activities are okay and what’s off-limits. Afterward, take some time together to talk about how it went and what each of you enjoyed or felt uncomfortable about. Kapaeva advises setting up boundaries that clearly outline what’s allowed, what’s open for discussion, and what’s off the table completely.
3. Embrace the Awkward Moments
Threesomes can be unpredictable, so prepare for a few awkward or unplanned moments. Lehmiller suggests setting up a safe word for an easy exit if things feel uncomfortable. Kapaeva also recommends being mindful and patient with each other. Consider inviting a stranger as the third person rather than someone you know to minimize potential awkwardness. Plan out details with your partner, and stick to them for a smooth, respectful experience.
4. The Best Threesome Sex Positions You Can Try
a. Double Penetration
This classic threesome position involves double penetration, where one man penetrates vaginally while the other enters anally. To keep things comfortable, have one man lie on his back on the bed. The woman can straddle him in a cowgirl position, while the second man enters from behind in a doggy style position.
b. Effiel Tower
Though the name may sound odd, this position can work well. In the “Eiffel Tower,” the woman begins by giving oral sex to one partner. While she’s doing this, the other partner penetrates her from behind, which can be either vaginally or anally, depending on preference
c. The Serve and Volley
The “Serve and Volley” is a playful twist on the classic cowgirl, enhanced for a threesome. Here, one partner lies on their back while the second partner straddles them in a cowgirl position. The third partner joins by sitting on the first partner’s face. If the two on top are facing each other, they’re perfectly positioned for added intimacy, like kissing, nipple play, or other mutual stimulation. This setup allows everyone to stay connected and adds a unique angle for pleasure.
d. The Underarm Serve
Not every memorable threesome position requires penetration; sometimes, mutual masturbation is the perfect warm-up. It’s a relaxed way to break the ice, letting everyone ease into the moment while exploring each other’s preferences. Observing each other’s body language provides valuable insights into what turns each person on, helping build excitement and connection before diving into more.
e. 69+1
The “69+1” is an exciting variation on the classic 69 position. Here, the two receiving partners engage in 69, while a third partner penetrates one of them from behind. If you’re wondering how to navigate this or any threesome, remember there’s no single “right” way. Kapaeva suggests focusing on your sensations and comfort levels—listening to what feels good and what doesn’t. Prior to the experience, it’s helpful to communicate openly with both your primary and third partner, ensuring everyone feels comfortable and aware of each other’s boundaries.
f. Double Cowgirl
The man lies on his back, with both women straddling him. They can face each other, sharing kisses and playful touches. One woman rides him while the other kneels over his face, enjoying oral pleasure. This setup allows the man to satisfy both women simultaneously while experiencing pleasure himself.
g. Three-way Spoon
For this position, coordination and cooperation are key. Start by lying on your sides in a spooning position. Two partners can penetrate the person in front, either vaginally or anally. Then, slowly thrust together in sync to create a harmonious rhythm.
So, are you ready to dive into your sexy threesome? A three-way can be incredibly fun and exciting, and it can definitely increase the sizzle in bed. Just make sure you understand how to navigate the experience from start to finish, and follow the essential rules for a thrilling, safe, and unforgettable encounter.
