1. Wrists Tied To The Bed During Missionary
This is a simple bondage position, ideal for beginners.
Have your partner lie on their back and tie their wrists to the bed posts or frame. You can tie the wrists wide apart for more vulnerability or loosely for more movement.
For women in bondage: This position is great for missionary or Coital Alignment Technique. You can also tease with a toy or perform oral sex.
For men in bondage: This position works well with the woman-on-top position for more control and pleasure.
It’s an easy, effective way to add bondage to your play while maintaining comfort and control.
2. Doggy Style With A Collar & Leash
Placing a collar on your submissive partner and leading them by a leash adds a powerful element of control and submission. This can be done around your house or even outside for a more intense experience.
During sex: The collar and leash enhance the feeling of dominance, especially in positions like Doggy Style. You can increase the intensity by:
Pulling the leash tighter with each thrust
Using the leash for light flogging or spanking
Having your partner hold the leash in their mouth
Note: Be cautious not to jerk the leash suddenly—gentle, controlled tugs work best for safety.
This technique can also be used in other positions like Turtle and Final Furlong to further deepen submission and control.
3. Oral Sex While Bound To A Chair
Binding your partner to a chair can add an exciting dynamic to your intimate play. Here’s a step-by-step guide to get started:
Have your partner sit comfortably in the chair.
Secure their ankles to the chair.
Important Note: The following instructions are intended to enhance the experience, and it’s crucial to communicate openly with your partner about comfort and consent.
Tie their hands behind their back, securing them to the chair. You may also want to tie their waist for extra stability if needed.
If your partner has a penis, you can give them oral pleasure. If they have a vulva, you can perform oral sex on them—this works best with a wide chair so you can spread their legs comfortably.
If you’re the unbound partner and you have a penis, you can stand and guide your partner in performing fellatio.
Beyond the basics, there are many ways to explore this scene further, such as:
Ticking their feet
Exploring light bondage and sensation play
Using sex toys for added pleasure
Remember to always prioritize communication, consent, and mutual enjoyment.
4. Bent Over With A Spreader Bar
A spreader bar can heighten vulnerability and control during intimate play by keeping your partner’s legs spread and their body exposed. To position your partner, attach the spreader bar to their ankles and have them bend over while holding onto the middle of the bar. Bind their wrists to the bar for added restraint, and with their knees slightly bent, you can proceed with penetrative sex from behind.
To intensify the experience, you can hold their waist for balance, allowing for longer playtime. Adding a vibrator to stimulate their clitoris or switching to oral play, whether giving a blowjob or cunnilingus, can further enhance pleasure for your partner.
5. Hogtied
Hogtying is a highly intense bondage position that requires careful planning and flexibility, as well as a clear method to release your partner quickly if necessary. To begin, have your partner lie face down. Then, bind their wrists behind their back. Next, secure their ankles together, and finally, connect their bound wrists to their bound ankles behind their back. The tightness of the restraints depends on your partner’s flexibility.
Once in the hogtied position, there are several ways to increase pleasure and intensity, such as:
Engaging in consensual non-consent play, like “forcing” them to give oral pleasure.
Tickle them if they enjoy that sensation.
Use a dildo or other toys to pleasure them while they remain helpless.
6. Wrists & Ankles Bound During Cowgirl
The method described involves tying a partner’s wrists and ankles to the bed, spreading them out to leave them fully exposed but not in pain. The person in control then takes charge, riding their partner in different positions such as the Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl, adding dominance by choking and sitting on their partner’s face. The overall focus is on physical and psychological domination while ensuring comfort for the restrained person.
7. Lying On Your Back With A Spreader Bar
In this bondage position, the spreader bar is used to limit your partner’s movement and intensify the feeling of restraint. Begin by attaching the spreader bar to your partner’s ankles, ensuring it keeps their legs apart. Next, attach their wrists to the bar, pulling their arms overhead or to the side, depending on the setup. Once secured, your partner will lie on their back, which leaves them in a vulnerable position, unable to move freely.This arrangement gives the free partner full control over the bound partner’s movements. They can position the restrained person into various sexual positions that allow for deeper penetration.
To ensure comfort, especially if your partner has a weak or sore back, you can place pillows under their back to support them during the act.
8. Wrists to Thighs
Thigh cuffs are a gentler bondage option compared to a spreader bar, making them a great choice for beginners or those with less flexibility. While they may seem less intense, they still offer a lot of fun and can be enjoyed repeatedly. To use thigh cuffs, start by securing the larger cuffs around your submissive’s thighs, ensuring they’re snug but not too tight to avoid cutting off circulation. Once the thighs are secured, attach the smaller cuffs to their wrists, rendering their arms bound and immobile.
While the submissive remains in a comfortable and non-straining position, you have many options to explore with them. For example, you can place them on the bed facing down, which lifts their butt slightly for a better angle in impact play. Other positions to try include the Sandwich, Turtle, and Leapfrog positions, each offering different types of engagement and pleasure during the experience.
These 8 introductory bondage positions are designed to inspire your exploration of sensual restraint play. We encourage you to modify, mix and match, or invent entirely new configurations – particularly if you have rope artistry skills, as this unlocks endless possibilities for creative sensual restraint play arrangements. Always remember: enthusiastic consent, open communication, and safety remain the essential foundations of any BDSM adventure.
