To fulfill your desires in bed, know what you want is key. Yet, what if you’re unsure of your desires? Exploring your sexuality, either alone or with a partner, can be exciting and eye-opening. However, it may feel daunting or awkward if you’re hesitant about your wants. Additionally, knowing what to explore can be challenging when you have only a vague notion.
Enjoy Porn
Pornography offers a fantastic platform to explore new desires, whether through watching, listening, or reading. Enjoy it solo, take breaks when needed, and focus solely on your responses. In this safe and relaxed environment, you can discover what you like on your terms, without judgment or risk, and promptly act on fantasies.
Moreover, incorporating porn into your sex life makes arousal more accessible. A study in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health found that women who use porn solo experience fewer arousal difficulties and heightened pleasure. Additionally, porn benefits partnered sex, as frequent users encounter less arousal challenges. Ready to leverage porn to enrich your sexual experiences and self-exploration? Here’s how to get started.
Opt for Ethical Porn
While free porn is abundant online, choosing to pay for it is a better option. Popular tube sites often operate unethically, relying on piracy and featuring content from underage or unwilling models. If you have favorite performers or creators, subscribe to their channels or buy their clips directly. Keep updated on their new work through social media. Just like you wouldn’t dine and dash, remember to support and pay for your porn responsibly.
Establishing a Safe Space for Sexual Exploration
Feeling safe and secure is essential for a positive sexual experience, whether with yourself or others. If living with others, pick a time when they’re out or preoccupied in other areas. Choose a room with a lock on the door for added privacy. If living alone, adjust the room to your comfort and close any curtains if needed. Turn off Bluetooth, use headphones if necessary for full volume enjoyment, and ensure your watching device and sex toys are charged.
While waiting for everything to charge, prepare by grabbing a towel to protect your seating or bed, your preferred water-based lube for silicone toys, and a glass of water. Set up everything you need for an uninterrupted and enjoyable experience.
Granting Yourself Permission
Embrace that act, scene, or genre you fantasize about before climaxing but haven’t tried. Discuss that thing you experimented with but find difficult to articulate. Explore that fantasy you yearn for, even if sharing it feels too daunting. Type in that search, scroll through that category, click on that thumbnail. Give yourself permission to explore your sexual desires without self-judgment.
Embrace the Sex Journey
While exploring new porn, various emotions may arise—embarrassment, arousal, shame, excitement, or others. Stay grounded in your body and the experience. Start by observing and being present. Gradually incorporate masturbation without fixating on reaching orgasm. Simply explore what feels pleasurable.
Take Practice
After your exploration, take a moment to sit and reflect. Consider journaling if comfortable. Document what you watched, your emotions, and your body’s responses.
Understanding your desires takes time. A positive experience will leave you eager to explore further—more porn or acting on fantasies. If it wasn’t as satisfying, don’t be disheartened; view it as part of your learning process. When ready, embrace your vibrator and delve back in.
